When it comes to your child crossing the road – it’s easy, as parents, to fall back into safe, cautious habits. But there comes a point in every child’s life that they need to learn, grow and practise this essential life skill. This story happened a few years ago on a simple walk home. It was a small, insignificant moment that told me that my eldest was ready for the next step. And that I really wasn’t. But when it comes to your child crossing the road, letting go is sometimes just as important as holding on. Here is our story…
STOP: Before letting any child in your care start crossing the road independently – make sure you both know the relevant road safety rules and guidelines in your area.
You can read the first part of this story here…
Heart Verses Head – The Struggle of Watching Your Child Crossing the Road
Mummy (8 years parenting)
“Mum, can I run on home?”
A simple question that immediately sends my whole body into major conflict. Emotion verses logic. Risk verses caution. Head verses heart.
Head: this is a good thing. There is no need to panic. We are only one quiet road crossing away from home. He’s growing up and you know he is capable of crossing quiet roads now – most of the time.
Heart: Panic stations everyone! He is knocking on the independence door again. He wants to leave your sight and cross a road – alone. What if he forgets to stop? Doesn’t look both ways several times? Refuses to listen? And ultimately makes the wrong decision?
“So, can I?” Tomas asks again expectantly because that kid really knows when to push it!
Head: He will only be out of my sight for 30 seconds, a minute at most. It’s a quiet peaceful afternoon. There is good day-light. He’s able to do this. You have taught him how to do this well.
Heart: But what if a car starts speeding down the street and doesn’t see him? What if a giant truck jumps out of nowhere and tramples him? What if he gets hurt or worse? How can I be expected to make these life and death decisions when I feel this sick?
“I suppose it would be okay.”
Head: Good decision. Conclusion to rapid risk assessment: this should be fine. He has to try these things on his own at some point. You are being a good, brave Mum.
Heart: WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? And there he goes. Around the corner. And now you can’t see him. You have no idea what is happening!!!
“Just be careful!” I call even though he’s gone. I start to walk a bit quicker. Just a little bit.
“Can I go to?” Luc, who is only 5 and thankfully, happily still holding my hand.
Head and Heart: NO!
Your Child Crossing the Road Safety Rules
Before starting to cross the road, get familiar with the Green Cross Code to be safe.
For some simple steps to cross the road safely, read our 5 Ways here.
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